14 Feb Adjusting to a new Nanny, 6 Tips
Introducing a new nanny is a big change for everyone. Here are six tips to help your children adjust and ensure a smooth transition.
In this post:
- Establish Clear Expectations and Boundaries
- Foster Open Communication
- Build a Connection
- Maintain Routines
- Acknowledge and Validate Feelings
- Be Patient
1. Establish Clear Expectations and Boundaries
Open communication is crucial from the start. Before your nanny’s first day, clearly outline their responsibilities, working hours, and any specific tasks.
Discuss house rules together so everyone is on the same page. This clarity will minimize disruptions and help your children feel secure.
2. Foster Open Communication
It’s not just about communication between you and the nanny; your children need to feel heard too. Talk to them about the new nanny and their role. Explain what the nanny will do, how often they’ll be there, and share some positive details about the nanny to build excitement. Keep the tone light and positive.
For example, you could say, “We’ve found a really kind person to help look after you. They’re lots of fun and will take great care of you while Mommy and Daddy are working.”
Encourage your children to ask questions and express their feelings. Let them know their thoughts are important. Involve them by asking what they’re looking forward to doing with the new nanny.
3. Build a Connection Together
Spend time socialising with your nanny before they officially start. Arrange a few casual meetings at home while you’re present. This allows your child to get to know the nanny in a comfortable environment.
You could bake together, work on a craft project, visit the park, or go to the library. These shared experiences help build trust and demonstrate to your children that the nanny is a safe and reliable person.
Gradually step back for short periods during these meetings to allow the relationship to develop naturally, always reassuring your children that you’ll return.
4. Maintain Routines
Children thrive on routine, especially during times of change. Make sure your nanny is fully informed about your children’s daily schedules, from sleep and meal times to favourite activities.
Provide details like nap lengths, bedtime routines (e.g., story time), favourite toys or blankets, meal times, preferred foods, and snack rules.
Maintaining consistency will help your children feel secure and ease the transition.
5. Acknowledge and Validate Feelings
Introducing a nanny is a significant adjustment, and it’s normal for children (and parents!) to experience a range of emotions, including anxiety, sadness, or even resentment.
Acknowledge these feelings and let your children know it’s okay to feel however they feel. Validating their emotions shows them you’re listening and supporting them through this change. Remember, it’s okay for you to have mixed feelings too.
Trusting someone new with your children is a big step. Be kind to yourself and trust that things will settle into place.
6.Be Patient
Building a strong relationship takes time. Be patient and understanding. It might take a few days, weeks, or even longer for your child to fully adjust. Offer consistent support and reassurance to everyone involved.
Adjusting to a New Nanny, How Purple Dove Nannies Can Help
Hiring a new nanny doesn’t have to be stressful. With careful planning, empathy, and patience, you can help your children adjust successfully. Remember, it’s normal for there to be bumps along the way. Everyone is adapting to the change.
Purple Dove Recruitment is a dedicated childcare agency, has extensive experience matching families with perfect nannies. We’re here to support you every step of the way, from registration to onboarding, ensuring a smooth transition for everyone.
Contact us today to learn more about how we can help you find the right nanny and make the process as seamless as possible.
Call us: 0203 633 4014
Email us: info@purpledove.co.uk
Further Reading
How much does a nanny cost in London?
Become a childminder or nanny (England)
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